It has been 2 months since we have started our 1year trip. Time has passed so quickly and everything becomes a memory so fast that I can barely have time to understand where I am today and where I will be tomorrow. Pictures are piling up, memories and impressions are slowly squeezing into my head, trying to still stay clear and not mix everything like a big salad bowl.
I admit, when I have decided to make this trip…I didn’t really understand what it means and didn’t truly believe that will happen. But then again…like everything else in my life, I have never thought about the gravity and the importance of my life changing events. I usually take things very easy, and only after I understand what have I got myself into.
This time..it wasn’t different. So, after 2 months I start slowly understanding that this is for real. That for 1 year I will no longer have a home, that everything will always be new, and that familiar, common and comfort ..will not be part of my daily life. It is tough. The trip has started as a holiday, and has been a holiday for about 1 month. After that, it became reality. I used to be attached to all the little things around my home, all my morning habits and all the nice little shops on the pretty streets I loved. All that…gone.
You don’t really get it before leaving….But now it has hit me. And I am coping with it pretty well so far ( But I admit.. I had couple of moments of “I wanna go back home” , but this usually happens when the times are difficult).
One of my biggest fears when I started this trip, was the test of my relationship. Our relationship. This is the only one thing I could not bear losing it. Again, didn’t really think it through before leaving :) (it’s just so me ) .
You spend 24/7 with your beloved one. You share everything and it is most of the times the ONLY person you will be talking to. All your friends are no longer there, no working colleagues, no classmates, no parents, brothers or anything. It is just you and him/her. If you want to leave for such trip, you’d better know each other well and more important cope with each other. We surely had our arguments, and disagreements…but we NEED to find solutions for all the small little problems. Because they are like ants ..small but bite very annoyingly.
For example : During the day everything was going nice and smooth and no problems arising, sightseeing was nice..all pink and shiny.But when it came to deciding where and what to eat for lunch or dinner…jeezzz, we would shout at each other like maniacs. Crazy, right ? Such stupid little things…and there is actually no real reason for a fight. But you would wonder…
So this needed to end, and a solution was required. It is like a corporation’s slogan : solutions for small problems.
I (the queen of solutions) have come up with a master plan: Each of us will be responsible for one of the day’s meals. Me – lunch, Alexey- dinner. And the one responsible is in charge to find a place to eat, decide where we eat and what. The one who is not responsible, will not complain, suggest or advice on anything. Will simply agree and follow.
Voila…problem solved. This worked pretty well and arguments disappeared. Of course, Alexey called me a “nazi” ,me and my nazi plans and rules :)) But it worked. Therefore we are still together, still fine and in love. Let’s see how the rest goes :)